For me BPD is an injury done by real ill people
Hey there. So my sister has BPD and i always was angry and afraid of her all my life (which i now come to realise was part of the manipulation in my family) until i begann my recovery on my own. I have CPTSD and some correlating BPD Symptoms that I was never fully aware of as i mostly had to be the functioning child during the hard times of my sister. Now I recognise my own insecure patterns and have room to confront myself with the tendencies I grew up mirroring from my parents.
What i came to realise during all my reading is: "who actually defines what is labeled as ill?", " are the people in therapy the ones who are healthier than the abusers who will never actually see what they have done?" "Hold on... if abusers are the ones who make you to the person you become then why is bpd and cptsd considered an illness? Isn't it a brain injury caused by abuse?"
I don't know it's just a thesis going on in my head right now as I more and more realised what was actually going on inside my home.. it was never my sister or me who were the problem..it was actually the way we were raised and the surroundings we had to endure.. it makes me think "if we would have had an emotional stable family would we have been able to live the life we actually wanted to live? Quiet,peaceful and loving? It's just mind blowing right now as I always thought that we/ or my sister were the cause of all the distress but now i am like hold on... wait a second..