Not me but my GF (28) who ill call Alice. A little backstory- she was adopted by her parents, ill call them carol and greg. Once Alice became an adult she was introduced to her birth parents, and she formed a close relationship with her birth father, Evan. Now, Carol has been known to overstep boundaries, tracking Alice via life360 and threatening to stop helping with college if she turned it off, and so on. This hasn't stopped even into adulthood. Now the two of us, Alice and I, are on vacation, for Evan's wedding. Its the penultimate day and we haven't talked to Carol or Greg since yesterday (which was the actual way of the wedding) and today we have spent all day at the beach, enjoying the beautiful waves and the company of this family she has been disconnected from until now. Its been truly lovely.
Until we got back inside after our beach day, and we looked at our phones for the first time. Carol had blown up her phone, at first asking how the wedding had been, then telling her to call her aunt to wish her a happy birthday, then demanding a response, then a missed phone call. Then greg had message me to tell her to respond, then a phone call to each of us, and finally a group text with Alice and I saying they were worried that we had been in an accident. Then Alice gets a text from Evans ex wife, saying Carol had contacted her through Evans brothers wife, to find out what's going on.
Alice got upset, she felt that the boundary had been crossed once again and she called them yelling immediately, scolding them like children and telling them they were ridiculous. They kept telling her if she had any children she would do the same thing and arguing so she hung up and went on DND. Now shes getting texts from other family members asking why she is treating her parents the way she is, but we feel that this was a necessary thing to put those boundaries in place so...
Are we the assholes?