Are these good enough reasons to leave (me f33) and him (43)
Are these good enough reasons to leave
What do you think of his behaviour towards me (F34) (M43)? Engaged for ten years
He lied about his age saying he was three years older but was actually 9 years older
He lied for two years about his age and where he grew up. He said he was born and raised in London but no he was born and raised in India and I only found out two years later via his passport and his parents
He pressured and forced me to move to across the country away from home town where my friends and family are. I cried so much. I said ok if we are moving there then let’s get a nice rental near my workplace for my first job as a lawyer because I don’t drive. He viewed rentals to placate me but had no intention. He moved me into his parents house over an hour away from my workplace with poor transport links and I couldn’t drive. I sometimes had to rely on him to take me to work but he always made me late
I hated living in his parents house because i am socially anxious. When we got there he said he had to go to my hometown for a week to finish his contracted job. I begged and cried saying please don’t leave me in his parents alone. He said you’re in the safest place I know. I cried so much. He left me there alone with his parents for a week first week as a lawyer in a new city with poor transport links
I begged him saying please don’t book our USA holiday to finish two days before I start my job as a lawyer because I need time to recover . He ignored me and booked it to finish two days before my job started. I said please don’t book the holiday for just a few days it’s very far away we neeed to go for a fortnight. He ignored me and booked it for six days
The plane return from another holiday - Africa - was delayed so we needed to spend another day and night in Africa. I said please book another hotel night he said no and made us sleep in bus station which was exposed to Africa street it felt very dangerous
He told me we were moving to his hometown across the country the night before so I had to pack up my entire life in a few hours
A few years later when we were living in a house together he told me he booked two weeks annual leave so I booked exact same dates well in advance. So we could be together. The night before the annual leave starts he suddenly says he had to go to a city three hours away for work for two weeks. He said he couldn’t get the annual leave. I cried so much I was left alone in the house with no transport for two weeks.
He made me keep changing my first pregnancy ultrasound appointment. Saying he had a shift. I changed it for the third time to accommodate him. Morning of it he says no sorry I have a work thing you’re going with my mum instead. It was the most painfully awkward experience in my life to go with his mum
Another year he made me book two weeks annual leave with him. I imagined we would travel and do fun things. We spent every single day of the two weeks waking up at 3pm and watching tv all day
He doesn’t exercise he’s vegan complete opposite to me he’s also Muslim so I had to listen to his dads constant patronising Muslim speeches and listen how they talked down on non vegetarians and catholics (me)
He doesn’t cut his toenails even though I begged him. They grew extremely long and his family even begged him to cut them but he wouldn’t. I was ashamed for people to see him. Even on holiday around the pool and beach i kept away from him because i was so ashamed of him. He would let the toenails snap off on the carpet and I would have to hoover them up
A few days after the engagement we had a student and I cried so much I packed my bags and walked the streets but eventually came back.
That’s just a small number of things fiance has done