u/DifferentCampaign333

I’m feeling at a loss here and want advice as an individual and a mom. Recently my fiancé walked in on his 6 year old son (my step-son) naked with my 4 year old daughter. We separated them and talked to them each about what was going on and learned they were playing ‘Moms and Dads’ and getting naked and kissing, and that the 6y/o boy was putting his privates against my daughters privates. I talked to my daughter about how that’s not appropriate, and that should anybody try to touch her in that way she should always say no and tell a trusted adult- and that she can always tell me anything and I wouldn’t be mad at her. Upon talking to my step-son we learned his curiosity stems from waking up at night to potty and coming to our room and watching my fiancé and I through the crack of the door and frame. I am mortified and I feel like a failure of a parent. We talked to him about respecting privacy and not spying through door cracks, about how it’s okay to be curious and that he can always ask us questions but it’s not okay to watch or copy, and that it’s never okay to touch other people’s privates. My fiancé and I talked about our mistake in not ensuring we were fully in private and put measures in place such as always closing and locking our door, limiting touching between us around the kids, and giving the children separate changing spaces, door stays open for play, and no unsupervised time between them. But I guess I don’t know if there’s more I need to do? Has anyone experienced this as kids or in the same situation as me and have any advice? I’ve been sick to my stomach ever since it happened and I’m worried. I want to make sure the kids feel safe and heard, while also making sure it doesn’t happen again. Thank you in advance 🥹