Weekend away with my wife
My wife 39 and I 39 have been through a rough patch lately. More like for quite a while. Part of the problem is me. We have two boys 3 and 7.
Over the years, as it happens, resentment grows here and there and I don't tend to respond well as it feels like we're slowly drifting apart and she's no longer as enthusiastic about anything to do with me both in and out of the bedroom. Or at least that's how it feels to me. I tend to withdraw and push her away which in turn causes her to resent me I would think. It's a vicious cycle. Talking is tough because it can easily sound like a blame game rather than trying to feel understood. So there's that.
I know that she must feel super confused but it's a bit of a roller-coaster. I love her and still desire her as much as I did from day 1 but I feel like she's slowly withdrawn. When we make love it feels most of the time like I get to pleasure her, which I love, and then she let's me finish. Not all that much enthusiasm from her side.
What I'm really asking for is what I should do? We always talk about "sexcations" and of course I love that idea but I'm scared that I get all excited and then we don't end up just being carefree and literally just fucking the entire weekend and just fall into the same routine again with no enthusiasm from her.
Is a weekend away a good idea? Is it gonna be too much pressure. What do you guys think? Am I being selfish?
Tldr; is it a good idea to plan a weekend/sexcation away with my wife after a rough couple of months?