u/Different-Let4338

I am 35 weeks pregnant, I conceived pretty easily and I have had a pretty good pregnancy. I don't talk about this ​with anyone because I know people have different stories

Anyway, I feel like all through pregnancy people just share horror stories about their miscarriages, preeclampsia, GDM, terrible birth stories.

Now it's nearer I feel like people say​ 'don't expect to get any sleep with a new baby' or 'it won't be a holiday' or just generally saying how terrible a newborn is. I know it's a baby, it's going to be difficult but I'm ready to make the journey with my family. I have good support (again a blessing some ​others don't have​)​​

I'm 34 years old, I've really planned to have this baby. I know children and babies are not easy I am under no illusion, but am I wrong to be excited? Of course I know it is difficult, but I feel ​like you can let people have some joy. Can I say I'm excited to meet my baby without some comments like 'say goodbye to sleep'? Do i just know toxic people?

It's affecting my mental health because i feel a sense of dread instead of excitement!

Thank goodness for my husband and family.

Anyway vent over!!!!

Hi everyone, I am 34 weeks pregnant and discussing with my husband on the best way to feed our baby. My family have always formula fed, but I really want to breastfeed.

However, I would also like other family members to bond with baby through feeding so would like to combo feed (either with 1 bottle a day of formula or pumped breast milk)

I have seen some places say you must wait until 2-3 weeks before introducing a bottle, but other advice says if you wait until too late the baby may refuse a bottle.

So has anyone here set out combo feeding from day 1? What was your experience? Can I pump with a manual pump from when my breast milk comes in? Or should I hand pump?

Thank you in advance for the advice, everyone gave me excellent advice on the last post I made and it really helped me!

FTM, 34 weeks pregnant and making a plan (as far as one can lol) about our situation.

Husband will have 3 weeks paternity and his Mom will come live with us. In those 3 weeks it's all hands on deck.

From week 4 ish my husband has to return to work and will be out of the house for 11 hours a day, 6 days a week for around 8 weeks. After 8 weeks he will working 9-5 five days a week.

My MIL due to mental health reasons cannot miss too much sleep so we need to make sure she sleeps at night.

Our home has 3 seperate sleeping areas, so my plan is to take night feeds by myself and have my MIL take baby through the day, only bringing baby to me to feed. Husband will pitch in when he comes home and potentially take a night shift (for example he could take baby 9pm-2am ​if he has work at 10).

I'm just wondering if any has been in our position, husband returns to work 3 weeks after baby is born and me and MIL take care of baby and ourselves.

I live in another country to my family, but fortunately my sister will visit for 2 weeks around my due date.

Does anyone think our set up is realistic? Do you have advice? Am I panicking too much? Is this actually more help than people get?

I know we can't plan for everything, if the baby or I have some issues we are open to hiring a nanny (it's quite common in the country I live in to hire a postpartum nanny).

TLDR​: husband has 3 weeks paternity then me and MIL will take care of baby, looking for advice to make it as easy as is possible on everyone.