I’ve been a SAHM for a little over a year now with my babygirl while my husband works and pays the bills.
He’s not the typical working husband who just comes home and plays video games. He helps me clean up the kitchen after dinner or takes the baby a bath and gets her dressed for bed, which is really nice after long days with my daughter who is in the terrible 1’s right now.
But.. I feel like he doesn’t listen to me. Like ever. I ask him constantly to take out the trash every night because we live in an apartment with the occasional cockroach and it’s a huge phobia of mine. I usually wake up and still see a full trash can in my kitchen. I ask him to stop being on his phone constantly during dinner time or I have to always remind him no screens for the baby. There are other things but I don’t want to go on and on rn.
Last night, I made a huge, delicious batch of chicken potato soup so I won’t have to cook for the next couple of days. It took about three hours to get done. After we had dinner, I cleaned the whole kitchen up. I touched the pot and it was still pretty warm and my husband was still going to be up watching tv so he said I could go to bed and that he’d take care of it in a bit.
Well this morning I go into the kitchen to find.. you guessed it!! THE FUCKING POT WITH THE SOUP STILL IN IT. Like you had one job THAT YOU TOLD ME YOU WERE GONNA DO!!! I want to pull my hair out of my head rn!!
I feel like I’m unappreciated with all of the cooking, the cleaning, and taking care of the baby. It’s been over a year of the same constant shit every day and I just feel so unheard and appreciated. It’s all piling up on me. So today, I’m not doing any of it. He got yelled at pretty ugly this morning and he’s taking care of the baby today. I’ve been in bed crying and I feel like I’m shutting down. I don’t know what to do from here.