Hello everyone, I'm writing this so I can get advice. I'm writing this on my phone standing in a bus stand. Im sorry if I ramble. I'm in need of desperate advice.
I(20f) i've been dating a guy (19m) for six months. I've been through a long toxic reletionship before that. Anyways, he's a great guy. He brought back my spark back. He's gentle, pure hearted, caring, kind. It is really good at least from on paper kind. Things have been moving fast, he's parents knows about me, his sister knows about me.
I've been thinking and even tho he is a great guy, we are not aligned on intellectual level. At all. I'm a very ambitious girl, he is not. I need my partner to be disciplined and focused. He words hard yes but he's not focused. We're in college together, in first semester he had 4 subjects failed. He did not get serious in second semester as well. He's not interested in academic things. I'm a very academic oriented person. I write, i read, i hustle from 4am to 12am at night everyday. I'm not bragging it's just... I can't get in words. That something just doesn't sit right with me. There hasn't been any argument, nothing. But things are moving and i should make a decision. I just can't go with the flow. And i unfortunately can't date for the sake for just dating. If I'm dating then it's all in... And for life. I know if we get married I'll have to adjust in things which I can't adjust in. And that thought makes me suffocate honestly.
He's a gentle guy. He's sensitive I don't want to hurt him but I also know that things are moving fast I need to break it off if it's I'm making wrong decisions.
So reddit, please give me advice. I love him so much. He's perfect but maybe the timing isn't right I'm not sure what to do. Any advice is good. Please help!!!!