I went out with a guy (let’s call him “Damon”) who showed a lot of interest in me for around 3 months straight. Honestly, in the beginning I wasn’t even that into him, but over time he became really consistent, showing up at my work sometimes, treating me with respect, making effort, checking in, all of that. Slowly I got attached.
Then out of nowhere, he removed me.
No explanation, nothing.
I got anxious and ended up calling him to ask if something was wrong. He said everything was okay, that he was just “in his thoughts” and stressed with work. Then later he added me back again like nothing happened.
Now I genuinely don’t know what to think. Part of me wants to believe him because before this he was very caring and consistent. But another part of me feels scared because if someone can suddenly disappear once, what stops them from doing it again?
The hardest part is that I have attachment issues, and once I emotionally connect with someone, it’s really difficult for me to detach or stay calm when they pull away suddenly. So now even though he’s back, I feel uneasy instead of reassured...
- Is this a red flag?
- Has anyone dealt with someone who randomly withdraws and comes back?
- How do you stop yourself from becoming emotionally dependent on someone’s attention?