My son 14M has been getting into trouble recently, telling lies, and being very sneaky. We know he's not an innocent angel and we're not shifting blame for his decisions. He is having harsh consequences right now.
The question I have is related to the neighbor a 12M. There's a video of a school bus fight (1st incident) where the neighbor starts throwing hay makers at our son because an older kid on the bus wanted to record a fight. This resulted in our son's first school disciplinary action. Our son has his phone taken away after a large amount of pornography was found in it in a hidden folder. The first images were sent by the neighbor which we believe led to him looking for other images. Now, we have found several vape devices in our son's backpack after he and the neighbor were out riding the ATV. We found out that the vapes came from the neighbor that had stolen them.
My wife and I both work and our son is alone for 2-3 hours after school. This has made it difficult to keep a close check on him. I know boys are going to do things and get into trouble but these are habit forming issues that can cause serious problems for his future. We like him having a friend to do things with but together, they are making bad decisions and it feels like the neighbor is introducing negative things to our son.
So, should we keep them apart or discipline our son as we discover misbehaving?
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