Wedding scaries or more? 28F+29M
I’m 28F and my fiance is 29M, and we’ve been together for years. I have a child from a previous relationship, but my current partner has truly stepped into the father role and loves my child as his own. I have a stable, normal job, and my partner works in hospitality. He doesn’t drink or do drugs. I’d rather not go into overly personal details.
The problem is that ever since we started planning the wedding, it feels like he completely changed. He procrastinates everything, acts rude and dismissive, and has this “whatever, I don’t care” attitude. I’m not even pressuring him about the wedding, but somehow even things like buying shoes for himself become an issue for him.
We barely talk anymore because, according to him, “there’s nothing to talk about.” We haven’t had sex for months. Sometimes it even feels like he intentionally does little annoying or hurtful things, then laughs at my reaction afterward.
I love him, but honestly, I feel like calling off the wedding. The problem is that I can’t really back out emotionally. My child sees him as a father, and because he truly is an amazing dad, I would never want to take that relationship away from either of them. But at the same time, I’m really suffering in this relationship.
Do you think this could just be temporary? Or is this what some people call “wedding scaries”?