I recently got into a relationship with my partner and it seems that I’m constantly considering who my real friends are and who I want in my life.
A little background, my best friend of almost 10 years is someone who hates men. She constantly complains about men and how she doesn’t see herself in a relationship for a long time, which is totally fine. It’s her life and she can do whatever she wants. The problem is that ever since we’ve moving in together, it seems as though we’re hit a bit of complications. She always has something negative to say to my boyfriend. Never really anything positive.
Before we moved in, she had said he could come over whenever I wanted him to. However, when we moved in, it became “uncomfortable” for her. We talked and came up with a plan that worked for the both of us. I just can’t help but to feel like it’s not even my home. I feel as though, he’s just not welcomed. And my boyfriend feels the same as well.
He’s tried multiple times and given effort to get to know her, but it’s just uncomfortable and it’s not being reciprocated. He’s expressed his feelings and hurt to me. Knowing that it’s my best friend and my boyfriend, it puts me in a hard position. I’ve been reflecting this whole year and I’ve constantly felt annoyed. Wouldn’t a best friend be supportive? Wouldn’t she try to get to know my boyfriend?
My boyfriend and I want to invest in each other’s lives. This includes family, friends, activities, ect. I understand she has her complication with men and doesn’t like them. But as a gay man, and her “gay best friend,” how can I not feel hurt, frustrated, irritated?
I understand my problems aren’t hers. My relationship is my own. But I just wanted advice. I wanted to see if anybody was in the same situation or what you guys think?