u/Devi-frenz

So yesterday I told my mom about how i needed to clean my study table (about 5'5 by 4'5 im guessing less than 20kg) because a stray cat pissed on it and its been bothering tf out of me (another lore😔) she said and i repeat "fine then do it tomorrow since youll have nothing else to do". Now the thing is Ive to push the study table about 15 to 18 feet towards the gallery so i can wash it.

So obviously today as soon as i woke up, I just wanted to get things done and get it out the way. So i tell my mom "Im going to take my table out so will you help me" she says yes. so after i take things off the table she says "why are you doing this today?" "you know im usually busy on sundays cleaning the house so why are you doing it today" so obv i retort "but you told me to" to whoch she replies "why are you lying".

So to give a short summary on mom, she has extreme ocd(undiagnosed but we know) so shes always spending the first hours after waking up in cleaning the entire house, edge by edge, we have maids as well to help her but they usually either leave on their own or get fired because of how she keeps pointing out how theyre not cleaning properly. That i get but when i tell you we have not been able to keep one for longer than 8 months because either theyre too tired of her scolding or she lets them go because theyre not doing proper work. We have probably had about 6 new ones this year alone. So you can tell shes pretty much all about keeping the house clean 24/7.

It was the same today, maybe even much more so since its sunday and no helpers around. So shes cleaning and i tell her i want to clean my desk. I DID NOT ASK HER TO HELP ME CLEAN JUST IF SHE CAN HELP ME MOVE THE DESK. She agrees. So now i start moving my desk simce shes busy mopping the floor and expect that shell help me somewhere in the middle. But instead she starts yelling at no one in particular that "she(for me) couldnt wait" "she doesnt care about me in the slightest" "she hates me" "she just wants to torture me". Mind you i just woke tf up and wanted to get things done. But now she keeps yelling at how idgaf about her and that she should just end her life. like why did she tell me to move it today??? And now she keeps talking about how she NEVER TOLD THAT. She says that she just said to do that on monday when we have a helper around. And i know for a fact thats not what she told BECAUAE THAT ALL I THOUGHT ABOUT YESTERDAY so i know its not right. Im just so confused.

So for a sum up i woke up wanted to clean my desk so i asked for help to move it then she says yes. I start moving the desk out of my room atp and shes pissed that i did that because she said its burdening her (cant remeber the right word she used) and she starts saying that im lying and she never told me that. i did not expect her to help me when i started pushing the shelf when she was cleaning becauae i just wanted to be quick but ig she felt burdened and annoying that i coulsnt wait for her? like its just a desk idg why its such a bigndeal. Then she suddently leaves her cleaning to help me and angrily takes it to the gallery. After that she goes "you guys dont care about me" "when did i tell you that" "i should just kill myslef" like atp im honestly so tired mentally. it was just a desk?

i think it is a fact that she was overworked and overwhelmed since she has been cleaning the house for quite some time. but when we do think to help, she doesnt want it. i dont know what to do. This is occurring often enough and idk what to do. She gets overwhlemed so easily and forgets things. She either has no time foe a doctlrs visit or when she does go theyre pretty uselsss. I was lowk so confused how moving a desk ended up becoming like this. If this is somewhat like you or you have experience with such a person then help me tell me what to do cuz hearing "i should just kill myself" hurts and is so frkn confusing cuz this was just a small thing to me. like idk.