Is it common for guys to stop being affectionate and text less when stressed/overwhelmed?
Hey guys,
I’ve been dating this guy for about 4 months and things were going really well ( marriage kids etc) until the last several days. We r both in our mid 30s already.
He’s suddenly become much quieter — fewer texts, shorter replies, and the overall vibe feels lower effort. He also stopped using any affectionate nicknames, which he used to do a lot.
When I gently checked in, he apologized and explained:
• He’s been feeling antisocial and in “autopilot mode”
• Overwhelmed, thinking a lot about life
• Busy with work and family stress
He reassured me that I’m not adding to his stress, and he’s still asking about my day and sharing what he’s up to. He’s not ghosting, but the energy is way lower and more practical.
I’ve never experienced this before. In my past relationships, guys stayed pretty consistent even when stressed, so this change is making me anxious. I told him I don’t want him to feel obligated to text a lot — just checking in is fine — and that I want to make his life easier.
Is this a common guy response to stress that will pass once his plate clears, or at 4 months is the drop in texting/energy a sign he’s losing interest?
Mainly no more affection nicknames and lovey dovey stuff…
Appreciate any honest perspectives. Thanks.