Im 20. My mother is a single older parent and has major control issues. After graduation she has had multiple major surgery’s. (Spinal fusions, multiple joint replacements, and etc etc*) so I was forced to take care of her, after graduation was when I was finally able to get my license and a car because extended family ridiculed her for her reasons against me have them. (She prevented my from getting my license during highschool and would lie to family about it, and it caught up to her)
(For context, I live in an incredibly rural and desolate area (1k town population) and I was stranded with no way to get anything done after graduating. The distance between towns are pretty far.)
After graduation every attempt I had at getting a job had to be canceled because I couldn’t follow her rules and be able to support her after her surgery’s. I’m now 20 and she’s stable enough where I don’t have to help her at all, and she doesn’t even want me to… so I’ve been trying to get a job. I’m at 146 applications, I’ve only had 3 interviews. And I never got a call back. I’ve been applying to jobs 40m-1hr+ away from me.
Jobs like cashiers, and simple stuff like that. But since I’m now 20, have no prior experience, a commute time of how long. I can’t get anyone to even give me the time of day.
So my newer plan, was to apply through FASfA to get a college loan and go to college, I have a friend who lives down south (16hr drive) who said it would be best for me to come down there and go to the college they’re going to. So I said great idea.
Issue, my mother is now sabotaging every possible attempt at me doing this.
First, she struggles to understand FASFA… she’s is convinced that it’s going to steal her info and fuck her social security…
Second, she is against me moving away, even though I’ve explained that there is no way I can stay here anymore. And I want to take control of my life.
Three she knows I know people down there, and is DEMANDING that I give her their names, which I’ve refused to do, cause she admitted she would stalk them. And my friends are not comfortable with this.
She’s refusing to let me use my car to drive down there.
She thinks that I’m going to fail and suffer. Becuase I’m just “that type of person” often using phrases like “people like you” and “your type of people”
No matter what obstacles I overcome she puts up a new one. I’m flat broke. I have no where to go. I can’t get accepted to any of the most bare bones low paying jobs. The options are really zero for me right now.
I’m scrambling to figure things out.
I just want things to work out for me, for once.
I want control of my life.
What can I do?