AITA for still being upset despite forgetting to say happy mother's day
Hi! I'm a longtime lurker and I'm on my phone so I hope the format is okay! I also hope I'm on the correct subreddit (if its not, I will go to the right one!) Now, onto what happened:
So, today (May 10) is mother's day. I (22, genderfluid) thought that yesterday (May 9th) was mother's day, since while I was shopping with my mom everyone was saying happy mother's day. In my mind, no one would say happy mother's day the day before the actual day, if that makes sense.
So, since my mom and I were surprised that everyone was saying happy mothers day yesterday, we both looked at each other and said that "today is mother's day?", and I said happy mother's day, and asked if she wanted to get flowers and such since we were shopping. She said she didnt want anything, since we are busy with home chores for when our floors get redone tomorrow (the 11th)
I might be the asshole, because I never checked the calender to see if the 9th was actually mother's day or not. So today, on the 10th, I didn't say anything. I thought it was just a normal day, and it was already decided that we would do more chores today and go over what I would do while mom was a work tomorrow for the floor guys on the 11th.
Basically, my mom burst into tears and started to call me and my dad ungrateful, that we didn't appreciate her, and some f-words were thrown at us. (My dad is recovering from shoulder replacement surgery, and said he thought mother's day was on the 11th and apologized later to her while I was in another room).
One thing I should also mention, is that I bought mom a mother's day card way in advance (~4 weeks prior or something?), but she moved the card and put something ontop of it, so I forgot about it (my fault). So, I found the card and tried to give it to her with my dad.
She kept crying and cursing at us, which made me start to cry (because its easy to make me cry, I cry when sad or frustrated) and I couldnt find any words to say, so I just slammed the card down next to her, and as i was essentially running to my room because I was shaking and crying, my mom said with so much venom that I "didnt get to f*cking cry (like a?) little girl", and as I separated from them I could hear them arguing.
Later, she came to my room, said that she "wasnt going to be the villain on mother's day", to give her a hug, and that we had work to do.
AITA for still being upset with her, even though I forgot to tell her happy mothers day today? I shouldn't have just left to cry, and I shouldn't have messed up the dates without checking.