Am I the jerk for not going to Mother’s Day brunch?
My brother and his girlfriend live an hour away and are driving down to see my mom for Mother’s Day, but have to get back for Mother’s Day with his girlfriend’s mom in the afternoon. So my parents scheduled a reservation for Mother’s Day brunch at a nicer restaurant that always puts on a fancy Mother’s Day brunch buffet. They made the reservation for 9:30am and told me after the fact that this is what they were doing, that they included me and my kids in the reservation and they’d see us there.
I don’t want to go. It sounds horrible. My oldest (8yo male) has autism and ADHD. Sometimes he does okay with an environment like a restaurant and sometimes he doesn’t. It’s a toss up on what kind of experience we’d had and I’m honestly just dreading going.
I’m also a little offended they didn’t ask my thoughts, they didn’t consult me at all. They only talked to my brother before making the reservation. They just expected me to be okay with it.
Now I’m being guilt tripped for ruining my mom’s Mother’s Day and if I even dared to say “what about mine?” I’d get made out to be selfish.
I’m not asking them not to go. I’m simply saying I don’t want to and I don’t want to have to feel guilty for it either.