AITAH for hanging up on my boyfriend?
My (27 F) boyfriend (29 M), we‘ll call Max, went out last night and didn’t end up coming home until I was just about to leave for work. No big deal usually.
I had called him as I was getting coffee together to see where he was and if he was okay. Max was pretty drunk which makes it difficult to get any concrete info from him. For instance, I had asked if he was on his way home and he just said, "Soon, I’ll be home."
I responded, "Oh, okay. From where are you coming?" Trying to get an idea if we’d see each other before I had to leave for work. He then responded with "What kind of a stupid question is that?" fairly aggressively.
He’s talked like this to me before and it’s always so upsetting and so unnecessary and just out of no where. I thought that we had managed to get through this type of rudeness that comes out when he drinks and I had forgiven him, but as soon as he spoke like he used to I kind of snapped and just hung up the phone.
I, I’ll admit out of pettiness, put my phone on airplane mode. I just didn’t want the barrage of ringing from him and I didn’t want to be talked to so rudely until I could take a deep breath. After finally calming down, I turned my phone back on and took up his first call.
He angrily told me that he was [nearby] and if I wanted to talk then fine. So I asked him if he wanted to talk and he just said "nope" and hung up on me. Which felt fair I guess.
Now that he’s awake and sober, he’s giving me the silent treatment, not responding to anything I say past a couple of grunts or nods.
Was I the asshole for hanging up on Max for getting mildly belligerent with me?
Should I have kept him on the line to continue with whatever else he wanted to say?
I can set pride aside and apologize for hanging up, but I feel conflicted about apologizing for hanging up after he started getting rude since this isn’t the first time.
Thanks for the judgement.