‘She’s definitely got worse’
My partner keeps telling me that it’s such a shame that my uBPD mum has gone downhill so much lately - that she used to be pretty normal but, as she’s got older, she’s started to lose the plot.
No. No. She’s always been this way - she just doesn’t hide it anymore. She’s got no-one left to mask for as she’s pushed all family and friends away, and there’s no-one left in her life to help manage her emotions or give her reality checks. If anything, she’s almost easier to deal with now she’s more waif/hermit than witch/queen.
Does anyone else have this? I know he doesn’t mean to but it feels really invalidating, like what I went through couldn’t have been that bad if she was ‘pretty normal’ a few years ago.
I’ve told him about how it was growing up but it’s like there’s a disconnect - like it can’t really be understood by someone who hasn’t gone through similar.
Have any of you struggled the same way and how have you handled it?