How to bring up the conversation around couples finance. My partner (30M) and I (29F) have been together for few months now, and really everything has been well so far. We met and hit it off right away. I was even taken aback because it seemed that we had known each other forever. My only issue was the long distance. Now we are looking to get married in December, we live in different countries right now and will probably do for some time after marriage. Where I am located, the cost of living is extremely elevated especially compare to where he’s at. I work and I’ve been on my own, I handle all my finances and even help out my family. Now the issue is, religiously and culturally speaking, as the husband, he should take care of all my financial needs. He is stable financially, but I make more than him (I think). My question is how to handle this in a way that is somewhat fair? I don’t want to put too much on him but at the same time he has the obligation to take care of me financially. I don’t want to make it too easy for him to the point he doesn’t handle his responsibilities.
Disclaimer: I know for sure that he will fulfill his obligations once we move in together. I’m planing to move there in a year or two. But until then, what seems fair and how to approach this situation? Yes, he sees providing as his responsibility. But because of the difference in income, it’s a bit hard, and he is self employed and doesn’t have a fixed income.