I (25F) have a really bad thing where if I talk to a guy I struggle with keeping it on a friendship thing, and getting jealous when I see him interact with other women.
I met two guys on nights out separately, and have spoken to a little bit and made plans to meet again. When I saw Guy 1 (27M) on Friday when he was with his friend (23F) and I was with my sister (24F) and I didn’t really get the chance to talk to him because of circumstances. But I felt so jealous seeing him interact with my sister and his friend.
He’s asked me to hang out again, but I don’t know how to keep it cool! What do I visualise, what I talk about?
Same with Guy 2 (2?M), he’s asked me to go to a board game café, but I don’t want to see it as a date just in case it doesn’t lead in that direction. But I’m subconsciously seeing it as a date because we’ve met on a night out!
I have experienced online sexual abuse from men in my teens and I went to an all girls school, plus I’m getting more questions about marriage from my family, so my relationships with men are very different to the norm. I used to have a male best friend but that fizzled out after I realised he wasn’t bringing me around his family because I was black despite him being in my family home multiple times and meeting my parents while being white.
Pushing aside that bit of context to basically ask, what do I do?