DAE Seem to get along with coworkers at work but are usually hated by the managers?
I’ve read a lot of posts on here where a common experience is doing well performance wise at work but not being seen as much of a “people person.” I see a lot of complaints about catty coworkers and “girl groups” who usually end up targeting the ND girl in the office and this is what gets into management’s ear. Is it unusual for an autistic woman to experience the opposite? I wouldn’t call myself a people person, but I’m usually fine with coworkers, even some of the gossipy women I feel are fine as long as you dress decent and play the “fake nice” game.
My biggest issues have typically been with bosses, some of who HATED me and were often outright hostile. I would often be criticized for “not taking initiative” but then any time I would try to do something on my own it was always somehow wrong. If I asked too many questions I would be seen as “needing handholding” but if I tried to be more independent I got my head bitten off for “not communicating”. Things I said and did were also often twisted or miss interpreted like I was being lazy or trying to pawn work off on someone else when that wasn’t my intention.
I’ve had people suggest that maybe it’s because of my “weak wallflower” personality and that’s what makes me a target, but I don’t feel like that’s the full picture. I feel like if that’s all it was they would want to keep me around to take advantage and walk all over me, give me extra work, etc. but that’s not what happened. It’s actually resulted in me being fired from one job and forced to resign in another (long story) with very hostile treatment leading up to it. A “WE WANT YOU GONE!” kind of situation. Does anyone else relate to this or have any insight on why this has happened more than once? Is this common for autistic people to experience?