Hello everyone. I recently started going to local botc games and have played less than 10 games. I’ve found the community to be very welcoming and have generally had a blast. However, one interaction left me feeling really weird and I’m not sure whether I should say anything or just accept it as part of the game. Please excuse the vagueness, I don’t want to dox myself.
The first two games I played was with a large group and I played town roles for both. Never lied. The third game was played with a very small group where the ruleset prohibited evil team from knowing who each other was. The ruleset had some other complicated dynamics that honestly left my head spinning. I was a minion and I made a really terrible mistake and cost my team the game. Everyone seemed pretty understanding about it and they even shared some stories about times they had screwed up as a new player.
Fast forward to my next session. Big group again, and one member of the group happened to be in that small group - we’ll call them Ben. During the first game, I got a town role that I had never played before. I made a critical mistake which very publicly hurt the town and made me look extremely suspicious. I was voted out, which, fair enough.
After the mistake, I pieced together some information that painted Ben as a probably member of the evil team. I shared my deduction with town. Ben responded by telling town not to trust me because I “play weird” and referenced the big mistake I made in the small group. They said they wouldn’t trust me until I stopped playing weirdly. The game ended and the evil team won - Ben included.
The next game, Ben did something similar, publicly stating that I always act suspicious. Ben was, once again, evil, and won again.
Ben’s comment made me feel pretty crappy. I don’t feel justified bringing it up to them though because isn’t stuff like that part of the game? But part of me also thinks that there should be compassion for new players, and commenting on someone’s overall playstyle in a negative way seems icky and insensitive.
I would love some perspective on this.