TW: bodily functions / incontinence
Hi, I’m looking for advice because I’m not sure what’s normal or how to deal with this. My mom just turned 61 and has had a few incidents where she has bowel accidents in the shower over past couple of months. It doesn’t happen every time, but it has happened multiple times, usually at night when she showers, so Im not sure if its accidental or become a habit, I know warm water can stimulate bowel movements especially at night. I’ve also had to clean the shower afterward once or twice, and it’s been really uncomfortable and stressful for me.
When I’ve gently tried to bring it up, she gets embarrassed and has denied it before or came with excuse for something else so I don’t push it further.
I don’t know if this is a normal aging thing, a medical issue, or something else—but I’m struggling with how to handle it, especially the hygiene side and how to approach her without making her feel bad.
Has anyone dealt with something like this? Any advice on how to handle it respectfully would really help.