u/Dependent_Cup_5371

So there is this girl I knew from school. We had friends in common and stuff and we used to go out as a friendgroup a lot so we had some kind of history together. The important part:
Everyone knows how slow she is to replying and even when someone calls her she sometimes doesn't answer or even give it to someone else to answer. Like even some of her girl friends and close guy friends used to tell me this (like not asking for assurance but a lot would mention it as it is part of her charachter). She would reply fast if someone is planning with her a friends outing but if it is for just chatting I guess she would take hours, sometimes leave us on delivered even if the convo was still on.

4 days ago, texted her to go hang out together (I guess it seemed as friends), we were alone had our fun and stuff, after it told her I enjoyed the night and should do it again (didn't force plan anything instantly). We didn't talk after it until 2 days ago, texted her if we go study at a cafe together, she replied that she can't because we won't focus much together to study (she was saying it laughing in like a good way), I replied and like we were going back and forth but there was hours between each message (but as she showed me it was because she was focusing on studying and not really checking her phone). Texted her today a simple hi, it has been 2 hours and she hasn't replied.

Her replies are mostly replying and not conversation opener but when we were together she was sharing and talking in a comfortable way.

I am a 20 year old male 2nd year university.

So there is this girl X, we have a longgg history like we've known each other for 5 years from school. 4 years ago she had a crush on me but didn't say a thing then like we were friends and everything like not too close but always in sight and in the same room (whether it is in class or in common friends groups). I was in another relationship for 2 years then we broke up and like when I was in this relationship I had some common friends with X so we used to all see each other. Then like I felt good vibes towards X and like felt she was also giving me good signs. Took her one time for a walk, told her I feel a special connection towards her but she told me that she didn't like last time was 4 years ago but nothing special since. But I don't know how common or right it was but after we talked that time we continued to a coffee shop and sat for hours than continued to a board game place and played. Then didn't see her until another time we were with friends we both didn't give each other too much attention (felt also some negative vibes from her toward me). Than another time also ran accross her with common friends but there like she talked with me in a fair good way then she told I am happy to see you.

3 days ago, I felt I needed to settle it down. Talked to her told her Hey wanna hang out for a bit long story short she came with me, we went to a fast food restaurant (it was a last minute friends plan), I paid then we did a random side quest where there was an army soldier that needed us to take him home and we enjoyed the trip even when we were buying ice cream we both gave cashier money but the cashier took from the girl because she didn't have change and the cashier told me "tomorrow lunch is on you" and we laughed and nothing nervous just genuinely laughing. We talked nothing after the hang out. Yesterday contacted her to go to a cafe to study together (it's her finals week), she replied with no I can't because I have to study than she replied with a joke saying that it wouldn't work me and her studying because we always find a lot of ways to procrastinate and do anything I replied with a joke going back and forth but the problem was how long it was between each message and how she didn't reschedule anything. So idk first is it normal really for some people to not reply for more than 2-3 hours to simple messages? Is it normal she doesn't reach out unless I talk? Is it possible that she saw our hang out 3 days ago purely as a friends and 0 romatic interest? Is there any advice or any way to test things?

Idk how much details is missing but the story is wayy longer.

I will try to tell you what I am normally and when I feel dumb and slow:

I am a 2nd year engineering student, tutoring math as private lessons. 2 good traits I have are how fast I am at calculation and how good I am at observing and forming a joke + storytelling like a lot of people tell me to tell a story because they like how I say it. (Of course there is more to it but I am trying to summarize it).

When I feel dumb and slow:

When I make any type of mistake (forgetting something, doing something bad that causes any type of damage...)

Sometimes when learning a new math or physics chapter I feel anyone else could have done it faster than me.

When fixing a manual problem with my hands I feel very slowww. So for example today: I have a screwdriver on battery. The head was coming off when I was trying to rotate it so it took me 15-30 minutes to fix it. When I finished it I felt that it needed maybe 2-3 minutes with anyone else (the problem was that there was a bolt inside it getting loose so I removed the head tried to put some oil and then when I knew it was the bolt I was trying to fix it after knowing how I felt dumb that it didn't need so much time like anyone else would have been faster and found it more obvious). Maybe the only proud part is that I did it alone. But like in anything I work with my hands or anything I am learning or trying or doing; I feel dumb and slow and anyone else could've done it faster. Maybe it is because I was too academic and school taught us that problem solving should be under fast time and it should always be pattern recognition like in exams? Like I know how to change a flat tire for example but I feel a lot of pressure or that Idk how if I need to do it in front of someone.

I am a second year engineering student. I am in french system engineering school where we do first 2 years all courses of math physics chemistry programming languages and culture than 3rd 4th and 5th year we choose whether we want civil, mechanical, electrical or chemical. So I take mostly about everything (statics, dynamics of a particle, dynamics of rigid bodies, electric circuits, electrostatics and magnetostatics...), so my point is we take a lot of courses that aren't primary for us (so if I want to do civil I don't need electrostatics...).

Now idk why after each exam I come out beating myself for the things I didn't know or the mistakes I did like start to question like is it related to intelligence? Is it related to memory? Are real world jobs or problems like that?

Like today came out of a organic chemistry exam; beating myself because 2 questions I didn't know and named a compound in a wrong way. But then I tell myself I am going into civil and I only need statics, mechanics of materials and some math and dynamics.

So do good grades mean good problem solvers and engineers? If no why not? Do jobs care about my GPA? (My GPA for now is more than 3/4 but idk how much someone need)

I am a 2nd year civil engineering student in Lebanon and here it feels depressing (at least for now but no one knows in the future). I am spending day and night studying and passing exams just to hear how little we make or even if we make good how bad growth is here (12k-24k as a fresh grad, it ain't bad because we have 0 taxes, me personally I don't have to rent but growth is hard).

Other than money domotivating me, here I always feel an engineer role is diminished or seen as someone who just draft on autocad and go on-site only to check his drawings but after researching, I felt some roles felt more than this (but not here).

So how much do you make? How many years of experience? Where are you? What job/role or what are your daily tasks? Is it easy to switch jobs if you wanted or was it either this or nothing? Are you living comfortably, survival way, poor or rich? I know engineering by itself isn't meant to make you rich or financially free but it could be a great launchpad with working on many other incomes.

Hello I am a second year civil engineering student in Lebanon and I am quite good in my grades and stuff but like I always have the trades (plumber or electrician) in the back of my mind for several reasons and I wish to have answers from experienced people.

Now I have the trades as an option because I really love to become a pro in working with my hands I feel it is satisfying being the guy who has it all figured out and mastering one handy trade really give you a strong toolbox for anything (I know that from my father who is one). Also I feel it is really money rewarding when you open your business like it is really each hour you pour = money and not working everyday for a paycheck (I know unless you are an employee). My questions are:

1. Why are tradesmen generally seen lower in society? Like what is the cause why having an engineer or doctor son/daughter feels to parents way better than a plumber/electrician?

2. Are the trades really a solid way to get to financial freedom or it idealized and exaggerated on social media?

3. Is the physical strain inevitable or is it just that a lot of blue collar worker forget to take care of themselves?

4. Is it a good plan to finish engineering to keep the degree with me and then jump into a trade or is engineering better for money?

5. Is Europe or USA or Canada good for these types of jobs? Or is it just middle class or even survival money?

6. What are real tips to stop romanticizing it and just get the plain truth to really choose.

Any tips or experience story or infos about anything would help thank you!!