Valid ba na fe-feel ng best friend ko at may mali ba talaga?
Problem/Goal:
green flag ba talaga yung ginagawa nung guy as a boyfriend, or possible ba na valid din na nasasaktan yung friend ko because the friendship suddenly feels emotionally downgraded? valid ba na nasaktan sya? at valid din ba na hindi na i greet silang dalawa kung mag birthday sila? o ano ba dapat?
Context:
One of my best friends introduced two people to each other years ago during the pandemic because she was close to one of them first (the person she introduced was her grade 6 classmate (Person A), and the other person is her classmate in high school (Person B)). This happened, again, sa pandemic, so mga 2021, we were young, really, like i was maybe 15 and them bcs their 1 yr younger than me, so maybe like 14. There was this other guy friend also that my bff had, introduced him to Person A also, then eventually they all became one friend group.
During that "pandemic time" ay maraming nangyare. Person A had a "nililigawan or MU", nd still nag tatalk sa amin na mga girls haha, but anyway. Dahil nga sguro think nya na wlang masama doonn dahil friends lng naman nya kami, pero ngayun na realize ki na mali pala. Fast forward, nung naguusap si bff ko and Person B nag confess si ate, perrooo, waittt nag confess pala sya even b4 pa sinabi ni Person B na may ka "mu" sya or mutual understanding. Tapos nun ay doon na sinabi ni Person A na yun nga may ka mu sya na nililigawan nya. Casual silang nag usap about it, and respectfully in accept ni bff ko na yun nga, kase in the first place din hindi naman nya ninanais na relationship talaga. So naging friends ulit silaa and nawala na ang feelings no bff ky Person B. Here comes si Person A, hindi ko alam in full detail, pero parang naging crush nya din ata si Person B. So yun na, marami ulit nangyare sa 2022-2023. Naghiwalay si Person B and jowa nya yung ka MU nya, nag chat sa amin uli, at nag sorry sa BFF ko sa mga nangyare, ang intention nya dun ha ay maging okay, sq mga nasaktan nya, kase para kasing naging mahigpit si gf nya sa kanya na pinablock kami lahat pati si bff ko na friend lang sila talaga. At hindi din alam ni gf nya na nag confess si bff ko ha dahil ang TAGAL na nun. So yun, nag cjat din uli sa akin, kaso naging iba yung chat nya, dahil parang nag ka misunderstanding kami, chinat nya naman si Person B a month after. Fast forward 2024, nag bonding si bff ko and si Person A, B, and si other guy na friend ni bff ko, dahil umuwi sya galing bohol. Tagal na kasinnya hindi na kakauwi sa min, lumipat kase sila noong mga years na andaming nangyare din. That was December of 2024. then 2025 of November na shocked ako dahil naging mag -on sila Person A and B, and base sa obserbasyon ko nag uusap pala talaga sola za mga years na wla na kami g contact, pero friends parin sila ni bff ko likez there was one time nga pala na during nung in the verge of breaking up sila ng then gf nya ay yung bff ko ang naging messmger ng dalawa, and my bff was their to comfort him.
So eto, my bff genuinely supported their relationship naman even if she once had feelings for the guy years ago. She still interacted with them normally, joked around in a typical Filipino humor way, reacted to their stories, and never became disrespectful toward the relationship. But ever since naging sila, parang sobrang nagbago yung treatment nila sa kanya, especially nung guy who used to be really close to her. The clearest example was her birthday recently: before, they would greet her warmly and Person B even post stories for her, but this year Person B just sent a dry “happy birthday palangga,” while the guy literally just said “HBD.” I know relationships can change dynamics, and part of me thinks maybe the guy is just trying to be respectful to his girlfriend by creating boundaries, which honestly could be considered a green flag. But at the same time, parang ang off lang din because my friend never disrespected their relationship naman, and they were genuinely important friends to each other for years. So now I’m wondering: green flag ba talaga yung ginagawa nung guy as a boyfriend, or possible ba na valid din na nasasaktan yung friend ko because the friendship suddenly feels emotionally downgraded?
I hope you can answer this respectfully po. We're now 19 and 20, and we've learned a lot from that. Im just wondering po. Also my friend seldomly get's hurt and this one hurts her. She also thinks that if it weren't for her, hindi sila magkakilala ngayon, dahil ang layo ng barangay and they are not even in the same university right now.