I’ll preface this by saying I have a very wonderful, hardworking and respectful husband. We’ve been together 10 years, married 4 with a 6 and 2 year old. We live a good life and are both be happy.
I am currently an administrative assistant and work from home. I left my employer in 2024 after having my 2nd and just came back last November to the same employer . I had a different role before, it was very entry level and I was in the field 30 hours. I’m wfh now at 40 hours but extremely flexible to the point I can break off to grab my kids, go for run, target etc.
One thing mentioned during hiring was 1x a year overnight travel to attend a leadership meeting which my husband said “cool, we got this.”
So turns out, being local to some of my teams (2 of 4 are about 1.5 hours away) allows me to drive to team meetings/get togethers.
Here’s what is planned so far and has happened:
Jan: meeting for 1 day with the option for overnight but I opted to drive home that evening
May: a team “strategy session” with a supplier followed by team building/ go karting - will be about a 10 hr day
June: my 1x flight travel for 3 days
June: attending a team performance meeting in person for optional 2days, I’ll likely do 1
July: possibly one more performance meeting
My husband had a heavy convo with me today because he has been less than welcoming about the travel. He said he “didn’t know he married a traveling wife” and if this is the path and trajectory I want to take, he just wants whatever makes me happy (which is so contradictory).
We didn’t walk away from the conversation on a good note. Honestly I didn’t think it was much travel. Should be most of it until end of year. Is he over reacting or am I?
Honestly I was looking forward to engaging with my teams and getting paid ot to join these meetings and drink free starbs and free lunch. Or is it fair of him to be caught off guard by the additional driving travel? I’m ok with being wrong… but also, worrying that not showing up to my local teams makes me look bad.
Any advice welcome