I recently discovered that My 25M boyfriend of two years has a secret X account and had created a tinder profile, what can I do, 26F now?
So last week I was going insane trying to solve an issue with some concert tickets that my boyfriend (25M) and I (26F) bought last year. The issue itself was simple, but it needed to be fixed quickly because I had a customer service lady from the venue on the phone trying to help me in real time.
Basically, I needed to find the receipt email from when the tickets were purchased in 2025. My boyfriend was the one who bought them, and since he was busy working, he told me I could just check his email on his tablet and handle it myself.
Here’s the important detail: I was using the Huawei mail app that came with the tablet, not Gmail directly. I searched through everything and couldn’t find the receipt anywhere, so I thought maybe he had accidentally deleted it. I checked the trash folder and I did find the concert receipt, but I also found emails from X/Twitter and Tinder addressed to the same fake name. The emails dated from about a year ago all the way up to last week.
At first I was confused about why those emails were still sitting in the trash. Then I realized my boyfriend mainly uses Gmail, where deleted emails disappear automatically after 30 days. But apparently the Huawei mail app has some weird syncing issue/bug where old deleted emails can stay visible in the trash folder until someone actually opens the folder and refreshes it. He basically never uses that app, which is probably why they were still there.
I checked the username connected to the X account and it’s basically just full of porn.
Now I honestly don’t know what to do. We’ve been together for two years and I genuinely thought he was the love of my life. Part of me wants to confront him immediately, but another part of me feels like I should figure out more first. How would you handle this?