u/Dense_Evening_238 — reddlx

8 months ago, I broke up with my ex-boyfriend. It was a painful breakup, and to be honest, I knew it was coming. I started going on dates 4 months after we broke up, and in January, I met this guy on Bumble. It was nice. He's very good-looking, calm, gentle, and respectful. We went on our first date, we walked around this park, and then went to a restaurant, had biryani, it was amazing. I followed up after that date to let him know that I had a great time with him, and he responded positively, indicating that he had a great time too. After that, we kept seeing each other every week, and we got physical and had sex too. It was amazing. So amazing. I could tell that he felt good as well. Valentine's Day came, and he gave me flowers. That was so sweet. Every time we met, he would hold my waist, kiss me deeply and passionately. We would watch a movie, cuddle, sleep together, hug, get food, go out, and he showed me around his neighborhood and his friends' apartment complex. He would text me consistently, be gentle, calm, and soft. Initially, I was thinking we could just be casual, lowkey, nothing serious, and just have a good time. However, as time went by, I realized I started developing feelings for him. I noticed a subtle thing about him, which was that he has avoidant traits. One month ago, I noticed something was off. After an amazing time together, sleeping, cuddling, watching a movie, I went back to my home. I noticed he didn't send me a single text, did not call me, did not say a word for the rest of that day. Okay, not texting for one day is.. not fine but okay I thought maybe he was busy or overwhelmed. Then the next day, no text, no call. He usually texts me regularly asking me what I'm doing, if I ate, what i'm up to and we talk about seeing each other again. i sensed that he was afraid of being in a relarionship, though he very much liked to spend time with me. We had no arguments, we were both very peaceful, we enjoyed spending time with each other. When three months went by, and we did not have a conversation about where this is going, I decided to confess my feelings so that I can get a clarity once and for all. He told me that he feels the burden of graduating and clearing a huge loan, and that even if he were in a relationship, he can't fully give me what I needed. I respected his decision. However, i noticed after that, he removed me from instagram, and snapchat. I confronted him: "Why did you have to remove me from insta and snapchat? We never had any arguments, we never fought, I never hurt you, so what is the need of removing me?" And he said "I think this is what is best for the both of us. I valued your presence. I respect you, and truly care about you." Now my question is, I never said or did anything hurtful. I was so kind to him. He was just as kind to me. So, why did he have to remove me, when there was no bad blood at all between us?