AITA for not driving my gf back home but getting her dad to pick her up?
I [22M] had promised her [23F] I'd drive her back home, I admit it, but we had hang out at my place all day long and it had gotten late, it was midnight and I was too tired to drive her back home, it's a 2h drive total, and one time I had already risked my life on the way back from dropping her off, struggling to keep my eyes open and barely getting by.
The reason I am supposed to drive her back home despite the conditions (one time, instead of sleepiness it was an awful awful storm with so much rain going on outside, super dangerous to drive on an highway) is her dad, he doesn't want her to sleep at my place even now that's it's been almost a year of me dating her, one time it was late and I asked to sleep at her place and he agreed, but only at the condition that she'd sleep in the bed with her brother and I'd sleep by myself in her bed. And yes, the ages I wrote down are correct, we are not teens.
Now I feel guilty about not driving her back home, I did offer to sleep for 2 hours, wake up and drive her back home in the night, but that was also not an option to her because of her curfew, so a huge argument happened and we almost broke up, her dad was pretty pissed to get up from bed to drive those 2 hours to pick her up, he even had work the next day, but I guess that was less important than the loss of dignity and purity that would happen if his ADULT daughter fell asleep in a safe place with her boyfriend who she has been with for so long.
So who's the asshole? I feel like it's both me and the dad, my fault is not thinking of driving her back home earlier when I had more energy, and her dad's for being so controlling he'd rather have her risk a car crash than letting her sleep in a safe place. But I am here to hear your opinion, it's always good to hear other perspectives and maybe I'm fully in the wrong.