Hi, I am looking for some advice/wisdom.
I am in my mid 20’s and I have been dating my boyfriend for a little over a year. We recently moved in together and for the most part we are very happy.
He is sweet and loving, we communicate well and make adjustments for each other. We have different ways of looking at the world (I am a planner he is go with the flow) and different urgencies when it comes to wanting a family.
I have dedicated my life to taking care of children. My dream in life is to have a big family. I want at least four children. I have stable work, money, I own a condo, and I am very responsible. I want to start trying within the next year - 18 months. I feel very ready and I don’t want to wait too long, especially considering I want a lot of kids.
I am very good at making decisions to further my goal of family when it comes to myself. I stay in shape. I save money. I eat well, and run a tight ship at home and at work, but I don’t know what to do when it comes to my relationship.
I love him so much. He has made some big compromises for me, but he won’t agree to a timeline for marriage/ babies. Part of me wonders if my best chance at a family is with someone else.
We both agree that having kids and getting married are the most important parts of life. I don’t understand why it doesn’t feel urgent to him. I want us to be together but I am afraid being with him I will waste the most precious years of my life and he isn’t actually going to come around.
I know exactly what I want. I just don’t always know how to best go about getting it.