I raised my sister since she was 13. She had an affair with my husband. I need advice on what to do next.
i dont even know how to write this without sounding insane but here goes
my parents divorced when my sister was 13 and i basically became her mom. took her in, raised her, did everything. i work remote and ive been the main provider for our whole household this entire time. i have a husband and a toddler who just turned 4. i thought we were good. like genuinely thought we were fine. found out my husband and my sister have been having an affair. and apparently its not even just physical. they fell in love. he's 39. the thing is i cant explain this away as oh he was always a cheater because he wasnt. we never had problems like this. no third parties, no red flags, nothing. and my sister is not someone i ever had to worry about. so im just sitting here like... how. when. why.
i kicked them both out. now my family is coming for me saying im too harsh on my sister because shes still young. i raised that girl. i was literally funding her life.
i have a4 year old i'm trying to take care of alone right now and im barely holding it together.
what do i do from here? do people recover from something like this? how do you even approach forgiveness for two people at once?