I 22F am married to my childhood friend 22M and I feel like everything we planned and were working towards is hopeless.
Some backstory:
○ We've been together for 2.5 years, married for 6 months
○ I moved from out of state to over in with him
○ We live with his family
○ The original plan was for me to go to school for a year, get my license, us get married, then he would join the military and we would move where we were sent and have kids
○ I graduated and he proposed with plans to do a courthouse wedding, join the military and do an actual wedding on our 5 year anniversary
○ he later changed his mind and said he only wants to deal with the wedding once, which gave us 4 months to plan a wedding and fly in my family from various states
○ I made my wedding dress, and he would get short with me whenever I was stressed working in it
○ two months before the wedding he changes jobs , making his drive to work go from 15 minutes to 1 hour minimum
○ day of the wedding, he refused to exchange vows or do a dance with me (we didnt exchange vows until 182 days after the wedding)
○ tells me he wouldve been fine if we stayed dating and we only got married for the military
○ it has now been almost 6 months post wedding and he has now decided that he doesnt want to join the military anymore and its a "single-mans job"
○ he doesnt want to leave the area, move away from his mom, or leave me alone so he doesnt want to join anymore and he wants to get a different job and doesnt know if hes interested in trade school
○ I tell him that I feel hopeless because he's changed the plan. There's no more moving out, having kids, ect bc theres no more military. There's no more space in the room because of all the tools he has and keeps buying, and the once space i had that was mine (my car) he has confiscated because he drives it to work (a 21 y/o car with 200,000 miles that he puts 100 miles on a day)
○ the solution that was offered was buy him a shed for all his stuff, I could take over control of the closet, and I should give up the dream of having kids
○ im having alot of trouble giving up my want for kids and I feel like im starting to become very depressed and short with everyone because of that
○ I love him, and ive been told to leave him, but to leave him would mean loosing my best friend, but im not happy. I know relationships aren't easy and theres good times and bad times, so the question is:
Is this one of those moments where I should give it time?