OK, so I am a happily married man, my wife is a very strong woman. She basically raised her siblings while her mom spent her entire youth and up to 2 years ago as a prostite and meth addict. She got caught mailing meth 2 years ago and was put on a PFO (persistent felony offender). I lost my high paying freight manager position just around that time forcing my wife and I into both working again to make ends meet. She was going to go to prison for 20 years unless my wife and I vouched for her and honestly I didn’t handle any of the probation stuff so I don’t know exactly how it works but the deal essentially she got out of prison by staying clean, testing once a month I think and she had to work as our babysitter because she refused to get a job. In retrospect, we should have just let her go.
She loves to tell me how to parent my kids despite never actually raising hers. My wife shared some stories of her childhood which I’ll share here:
Exchanging sex for drugs in the same room as my wife and her siblings.
My wife was a victim of childhood sexual assault from all the strange men that ran through the MIL and the apartment.
Signing away the rights of the kids to my FIL after their divorce (he’s a kind man) around 8-9 years old.
I can go into more detail but you get the picture.
Now with our survival dependent on our 2 paychecks and my retirement check from the Air Force, we are doing great. However if my wife quits working again then I won’t be able to keep up on bills if literally any emergency happens. I want to fire her but I can’t.
She recently started to antagonize me again over making the kids (11, 10, 6)clean while my wife was shopping. It got loud and I reminded her no less than 6 times that a woman that signed her rights to her kids has absolutely no place telling me how to raise mine. All during this time I was trying to cook lunch for my kids, now she is telling people that I chased her around the neighborhood with a knife. My FIL outed her in that lie to protect me but what can I do to protect myself? My friend who has experienced something similar thinks she is trying to build up a case for an EPO on me to get me out of the house.
Also my son just got hit with a diagnosis of autism stage 3 last week and my wife is actively looking into how to get some sort of aid with him but she has all that info.
Any help would be greatly appreciated.