u/Delicious_Bus_4876

My best friend works for amazon and has been having a weird issue with a guy? He tells other coworkers he loves my friend and that he just wants to kiss her when he sees her. He hasn't said or done anything to her. She doesn't want to go to a manager or hr since nothing was directly said to her it is just lots of he said she said. He did bring up weird topics to her before a coworker told her that was going on, my friend has a boyfriend and the others know and it was going over her head another man was kind of flirting with her. Could she go to HR with a coworker is saying weird things about me while I'm not around? Or would that just waist time?

So I've been having a weird problem with a... higher up? at my work. I work at that big warehouse company that you order from, I started around the end of march, not my first time working for them, on day 2 we had a learning team member from the area I would be working in going over and teaching us how to do things. I normally don't like talking to coworkers or having friends at work, this time I was talking to coworkers since standing around for 10 hours a day would be kinda boring. On the first few days I asked about how the process is to transfer to a different state is because after some time I plan to move and be with my boyfriend, this info is very important.

About 4 days in my coworker I share a station with tells me our training guy has a thing for me and has been calling me cutie pie while I'm not around and says how cute I am, she did remind him I was taken his response was "I don't care about that" then said something in Spanish and walked away. As I learned this a few of his actions made more sense, he would come and stand next to me for 10 to 15 minutes and just watch me bring only me new supplies at the start of shift and offer to buy me snacks during the shift. I didn't think about any of that I just thought he was being nice to all of us, till it was pointed out it was only to me.

A few weird things he would come and talk to me about is "my mom wants me to find a women." "I wish I could find a good women that in the area" "If I had a women I would be taking care of her all the time" "I think I'm ready to have babies I just need to fins the right women." I am sure there's more I just cant think of them. This was also all before I was informed of that he was saying while I wasn't there.

Me and my coworker we talking about our men, and I was talking about how mine is a bit of a picky eater, and the guy over heard me say mine isn't a fan of Mexican food, I'm fine with I love Mexican food he just wont eat it. This man tried to say "What you mean you have a guy who don't eat Mexican food. You need someone who will eat whatever you cook."

One day I was kinda upset with my boyfriend, it was something just stupid and like a normal relationship thing like forgetting about stuff but nothing huge to make me think about leaving. I was walking to our stations and I was talking to my coworker about what happened, and he happened to overhear me say "My man made me kinda upset today I ma be ignoring him tomorrow and be a little petty."

5 minutes later learning guy came over and starts asking "How solid are you and boyfriend?" I replied with "We been talking about what our wedding would be like and houses, so I don't think he's going anywhere." I don't remember exactly because I tone him out with the sounds of machines, but it was along the lines of "why date someone in another state? why not date someone closer? what will your family think when you move away?" I replied with "I don't like guys here never have never will, I hate this state its cheaper where he lives and my family has been planning on leaving this state for a bit now and what they think don't matter its my life not theirs." He didn't talk to me for the rest of that week and stopped giving me new supplies.

about a week into the job a few of us made a group chat so we could talk and maybe hang out outside of work, we offered to invite him but he said "No I can't do that they wont let me give out my number, they don't even want us talking outside of work like that." He continued to say things about me while I'm not around, he only says flirty things about me to my coworker never to me because he is to "shy" and scared of rejection. He was rejected on day one.

About half a week later I got dizzy during work and went to amcare, they checked a few things and I got sent home with being suggested to go to the hospital. I did go to the hospital, I kept my coworkers updated, and word got to him what happened and he wanted to be added to the groupchat. Now he had my number, I never saved his to my phone and I don't message people that often unless its a group chat. He messaged me a few time telling me to take better care of myself and something else. I have high blood sugar, and am on some meds now I'm all good. I got back to work a week later, While working when we have alot of heavy or big boxes to lift I have started to get dizzy and low blood sugar now, so I'll buy a juice or a cookie at the start of my shift.

I normally only drink zero sugar coke or dr pepper or just zero sugar drinks in general even snacks. He always comes up to me while i have a drink and says "you shouldn't have that, even it says no sugar there's sugar in there and it fucks you up more than sugar." or if i have something not sugar free "girl why you be buying that?" I explain every time I know what I can and cant have and if its a day I go to the gym after work I'm ok with having a little extra treat. He wants to try explaining I need to do better for myself and that he is looking out for my health. My own man doesn't talk to me like this, yes he makes sure I'm not over doing myself but he doesn't lecture me and he does understand I know myself and what I can and cant have.

My boyfriend wants me to report him, I also kinda do as he continues to say things about me to coworker, but I have nothing other than he's telling me not to have a snack or how to diet, or tell me not to go to the gym after working.

It was about 2 weeks he didn't talk to me, last Saturday we were in the work chat complaining about how bad the day is going, he dms my coworker says "I'm in love with her. I know she is taken but every time I see her I just want to kiss her." She sowed me and saw I was grossed out. He told her to tell me and that he is to shy. She told him no you tell her then that was it. I requested to change to day shift, I wanted since I stated yo have more time with my boyfriend. I told her not to tell him I requested incase he could get it denied somehow. I didn't work Sunday so Monday I was going to tell him to cut it out, I feel gross and he will never have a shot with me. but I was moved around to support other areas and didn't get to. Tuesday I told him I know what he has been saying and he acted like He had no clue what I was saying.

Then he started avoiding me the rest of the shift, I'm almost to the point I want to leave but I NEED this job it took me 2 years to get a new job and cant leave, it isn't helping my health and causing me so much extra stress. I do have a small speech a friend helped me write out at 5 am after my shift I plan to tell him when I see him on Monday.

I know what you've been saying about me and I have a few things to say back and you're gonna listen to what I gotta say. I honestly think its hella creepy and weird you know I have a boyfriend were very happy and serious and honestly I don't give a fuck on you're opinion or feelings to me are. I am going to continue to be kind and friendly as coworkers, the key word is coworker here nothing else. If you can't respect that our work section is big enough we can avoid each other. I've been nice and holding back the past month but I am tired of feeling creeped out and stressed over something as stupid over what you might do or say. And trying to shit talk my boyfriend, a man you fucking know nothing about makes me feel disgusting talking to you. Saying things like "I just want to kiss me every time you see me." and "I'm so in love with her" is so freaking weird, you don't know me, you cant even tell me basic facts about me.

Should I go to HR, there is never any HR on site its all online I don't know if they would understand or say there was nothing said or done to me and just drop it? A lot of it is also she said he said so he could just say he didn't say it. Should I add anything else to my little speech to him? Should I request to be in a different section, kinda don't want to do that where I'm at is the best spot. I hope my request to day shift is approved I will miss my coworkers but I don't know what to do rn. Any suggestions would be nice..

I have a small update, they approved me to go on a new schedule. so after my training i get to make my schedule every week will be better since i plan on traveling out of state in a few months and i can have more time with my man. I have been rejected 9 times on trying to get a new schedule I come to a reddit and they approve me a few hours later. still kinda sad ima not see my coworkers that much but ill be avoiding him now.

I dont start till the 24th on the new schedule so i have about 2 weeks left with the one guy, should I maybe tell the managers and HR?

Also, I posted this on my friends account, I could have made a second account but i would have forgotten the login and my account could show it was me posting if anyone from work saw it.