Finally had PIV sex! (get a vibrator for your clit!)
I finally had PIV sex yesterday!
Never used tampons in my life, first time anything went in was when my bf tried fingering me with one finger 6 months ago. It was incredibly painful. He barely got it in and he said that my opening was really small.
We tried with fingers inconsistently (with weeks of breaks in between) but no luck. That was until we got a vibrator! I would press the vibrator to my clit and the vibrations actually helped ease the pain and helped me relax a lot more. After a couple more weeks of trying we finally got 2 fingers in (though with a lot of pain).
Tried inserting a dildo smaller than him but it hurt too much.
Yesterday we tried again. 1 finger then 2. A lot a LOT of foreplay was involved. With the help of the vibrator on my clit he tried pushing his in and it went in! It wasn't completely painless (there was a specific spot inside that was particularly tight and painful for me) but it went in successfully!
It was actually less painful than with 2 fingers(nails).
Honestly I think I think without the vibrator it wouldn't have been possible for me to get to this point. My bf becoming more understanding and patient with me about my vaginismus also helped a lot(struggled with a lot of mental blocks and anxiety)