u/DeliciousCookie5692

Boyfoe

Speaking specifically of a romantic relationship here. We romanticize the positives of a relationship a bit too much. Not every couple gets to be highly compatible. But can we say they can't maintain a healthy relationship? Fully understanding a person is impossible. We are all flawed in our own ways. We sometimes can't even understand ourselves let alone our partners. So are we failing if we can't understand every thought and every action of them?

I guess not. Maybe it's not how much compatible you two are but what matters more is how much incompatibility you can handle without parting ways. Maybe it's not how much you understand each other but how much you can respect them even if you don't fully understand their doings. Though not to mention, a certain baseline compatibility and understanding is always required. Maybe that's what determines with whom should we spend our life with. At the end of the day, it's just two consciousnesses trying to sync on a long term basis with each other.

Also, life-long stability comes from not one or two compromises but often from a pile of them. What makes it worthy is much mutual willingness to not leave each other is present.

Cuz you may meet a person (after you've settled with your partner) whom you feel vibe with you more than anyone else. But should you leave your current partner? No, cuz there's always something better out there. We don't chase the perfect. It doesn't exist. Maybe the real task is not to see how much you can have but to set a certain level of stability which would satisfy you in life.