So, for context I'm 19F and i was in a relationship (turned into situationship) with a guy 19M for like 10 years. We started talking in our childhood and became friends...slowly we started liking each other so we got into a relationship later. So I had a best friend at that time 19F who was close to both of us. So when we were in 10th grade i decided to take a break from the relationship as I wanted to focus on my boards. I don't know why but he couldn't accept it. He agreed to it on a condition that we would get back together after 10th. But when we were not talking to one another in 10th i noticed him getting close to my then bestfriend. They both were actually pretty close than just platonic friends. I told my other friends about it but they didn't think much of it. I also ignored it and moved on. Then in 11th we started talking again. I had decided not to because I had noticed him being closer to my then bestfriend than me which had upset me. For some reason this girl (my ex bestfriend) started acting like she was the one bridging the gap between me and my boyfriend. Like she stood with him to ensure he could get back with me...uh absurd. Anyways we got back together and we were pretty close until 12th grade. In 12th I noticed again that my boyfriend was more close to her and to some other people than me. I slowly noticed how she was making all efforts to get his attention and they both became 'friends'. But at the same time...I cannot explain but he was really great with me...he understood me and it just felt like this is it. But i kept noticing how she started getting close to him again and treated him like her boy bestfriend..I felt like she was trying to get to him. And he did not feel that because i did not ever confront him about it. Maybe he felt it was okay to talk to her because guy-girl friendships exist right...Then finally I broke up with my boyfriend of 10 years a few months back. Then when I saw his socials i saw that he posted her and that they met so many times. Like he had met her while he was dating me. They both had met a couple of times and i saw how she was trying to arrange the meetings and get to meet him and he was unbothered to meet her but was doing it because she was organising them. That broke me apart...to see how she was trying her best to be with someone I loved. So recently due to some tragic event I happened to text my ex. We spoke a bit and he seemed pretty chill and it seemed like he was still interested in me and he's not able to move on. I noticed it too and now I feel like I made a mistake. Because he is just the only person who probably has understood me like no one else. But this thing that he has with my ex bestfriend and some other girls who were my friends...it just doesn't sit right for me.
Now I'm confused. Whether i should directly confront him and ask him why he still followed, met and interacted so closely with those girls while in a relationship with me? (If he wanted to he could've avoided it and asked them to stay away) Or just ask him if we get back together, will he leave and unfollow them on all his socials?
I feel he could've done this. The fact that he didn't made me leave him and I couldn't confront him about it. But now I feel like I should get some clarity from him
So do u think I should make a move and ask him?
(Tldr: ex came back into my life, feels like I can get back together, but there's another person involved)