I "19F" have a friend "18F" and we'll call her Edward/E (like the vampire) We met about 2 1/2 months ago after we discovered that we live near each other. Her mom saw me on my walks around the neighborhood and said that she has a daughter that needs new friends so we started hanging out and going for walks. We both have younger sisters and we all got along pretty well in the beginning. However, I've noticed red flags from both of them that I particularly don't enjoy:
Both are really bad at communicating, if me or my sister try to text them we sometimes don't get a response back until a few hours later. And its not like their busy, they both do online school and so do me and my sister. Neither have jobs and neither do me or my sister (although we are actively looking). (The four of us live with our parents btw) They go to bed anytime between 2am and 7am so that means their sleep schedule is fucked up. Sometimes when E wakes up, she goes right back to bed a few hours later for awhile.
When E was here for a sleepover during my sisters birthday party, they both shared my sisters room since I didn't want her in my room. Thank goodness I didn't let her in my room because she stayed up until about 6AM on the phone with about 5 different guys. She woke my sister up about 15 times that night and she could hear her on the phone trash talking the party and her. Me personally, I would've flung her phone across the room and told her to STFU and let me sleep. I don't play about my sleep like that.
E has talked about working on herself and yet she's in her "hoe era" but yet also still pining after her ex whom she complained about only wanting sex. IDK maybe this is normal in a friend group, im asexual and aromantic so i find everything about her "love life" odd. But IMO she lying about working on herself.
They sometimes drink and they both vape. Like im pretty sure their addicted to it because one gets mad if the other one takes it from the house or smth. I don't do any of that stuff because if I wanted flavored air I'd go to Taco Bell.
THIS IS THE ONE THAT PISSES ME OFF THE MOST: E BITES PEOPLE. Literally like a fucking toddler she will bite. and there not soft either, she bruised my sisters thigh and she hurt my arm. She does that with people in her family to unsuprisinly. And she HAS THE NERVE TO ACT SUPRISED WHEN WE TELL HER SHE HURTS US AND TO STOP DOING THAT. Honestly if she does it again atp I will be fucking pissed and stop being friends with her.
add on to the poor communication thing, E is apparently grounded for trying to sneak out and she didn't tell us until 2-3 days after and she just ghosted us. Apparently she snuck out to go smoke a joint with ppl she knew but idk who with. Oh and she still has access to social media so she could've told us on ig or fb but she didn't. So when she messaged the gc saying she was grounded all I responded with is "Fun".
Whenever we don't do something she likes or what she wants, she says "oh so you hate me", I always shut this down by saying, "yes/sure". For example, she has talked about moving in together; I want to live alone, completely, in a small 2 room apartment with my future dog, one room as my personal library, my room, and the living room as a study area filled with whiteboards/chalkboards. As you can tell I like books and I read anything from historical fiction, to non-fiction about anything really, to physiological thriller, to classics. So please give me book recs while your at it lol. Anyway, I would rather go eat in a restaurant alone than live with anyone or anyone who isn't my sister if I had no other option. I told this to her and she said, "wow so you hate me" and I said something like "I don't care, I want to live alone and with my own dog".
I told Edward the first day we met (abt 3 months ago) that I might be bi, but was still questioning myself. However, since then I've come to the realization that I am asexual and aromantic. So it gets a little boring and annoying when almost every single time we hang out the conversation turns to s*x, boys, and relationships. This is one of the reasons why I also don't feel a deeper connection with them nor do I feel an intellectual connection.
Anyway, I just wanted yalls to hear this crazy shit and to make it what you will. I didn't really need advice but could sure like to know your ideas/opinions. We are going to talk to our parents tonight about it and see if they can talk to their parents also so they don't try to lie about the situation.