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I’m 23F, my boyfriend is 26M, we’ve been together for 2.5 years.

For the last 2 years, he was away for his masters, and now I’m the one leaving for mine (also 2 years). So we’re basically going back into long distance again.

Now the issue — his parents are very adamant about getting him married soon. They want to make his shaadi profile and start sending it out to girls. He’s confused and honestly doesn’t know how to handle them. He’s not excited about it, but he’s also not fully pushing back.

On my side, I haven’t told my parents about him yet. I told him I’ll probably bring it up after a year because I’m just not in that phase mentally right now. I’m about to move, start a whole new life, and I don’t want marriage pressure on top of that.

So now we’re stuck in this weird situation:
- His parents want to actively start looking for matches
- I’m not ready to tell my parents yet
- We’re about to do long distance again for 2 years

I don’t know what the right move is here. Should he just stall his parents? Should I tell mine earlier? Or are we just avoiding something that will blow up later?

Has anyone dealt with something like this — especially with Indian family pressure + timing not matching? Would really appreciate honest advice.

TL;DR: BF’s parents want to start arranged marriage process now, I’m leaving for masters and not ready to involve my parents yet. We’re confused and don’t know what to do.

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