AITAH for the wanting to give up on my sibling?
I 17 female Have a brother 25 who has a girlfriend 20.
(All the names I use are fake) my brother Eric has a girlfriend named Sarah and they have been a relationship for about three years. The relationship started off with lies. Sarah told my brother that she was 18 when she was not and since then she keeps lying. Sarah does not have a job so my fresh out of college brother has to buy food for both of them and he doesn’t have enough money to do that and be able to save money to do the job. He has a degree for.Their relationship is an abusive relationship, not physical, but mental. Sarah is the type of person that if Eric is doing something she doesn’t like or if he talks about breaking up, she will threaten to hurt herself . Me and my brother used to text every day even after he went to college but now we will go weeks at a time without texting once because Sarah goes through his phone so I don’t know if it is him responding or Sarah and Sarah has been known to delete text messages off of his phone. We have a cousin named Alice who was adopted in by my aunt. Before Alice got adopted her and my brother were friends and dated for about a month Eric never told Sarah about Alice because Alice is now our cousin, but Sarah found out about it because she read my brother‘s journal and has since then went on his phone and deleted messages from Alice to him, and if Alice is somewhere, she will not let my brother go to that place. Eric has told us multiple times. He was planning on breaking up, but he never did then two weeks ago he said he finally broke up with her and moved back home, which he was supposed to do a while ago. We brought him a brand new bed so he could come home then I went downstairs to see him and he got a notification on his phone and his phone lit up and his lock screen was a picture of Sarah so I ask him if he was still broken up with Sarah and he said yes then about two days later I wrote out a note to him that I now wish I had worded differently. I told him he had lost all of my trust and I was hoping that he would understand how this is affecting me then about two weeks later I come downstairs and he was here so I asked him if he was gonna stay for dinner and he said he was planning on going camping with a couple friends down the road in the next day. I went downstairs to get my laundry for school and Eric and Sarah were sleeping in bed. Eric has been told by our parents that Sarah is to not come in the house multiple times and this happened after I told him I had lost all trust which hurt a lot. Sarah has taken him away from his friends who want to see him very badly, but can’t because of Sarah. there has been multiple times where I have been sitting in bed and will just start bawling my eyes out because I miss my brother and I want to trust him, but I can’t anymore. I can’t trust what he says. I can’t text him because I don’t know if it’s him responding to me and I’ll talk to my mom about it and told her that I’m done trying I’ve tried everything. She said he’s worth trying for so I told her I should be too, but it doesn’t feel that way. Me and Eric went to the park yesterday that’s the first time it has just been me and him doing something in a very long time and it was very awkward because I know nothing about him now I don’t know anything about his life. It shouldn’t be awkward to talk to your sibling who you used to be so close to so I guess I’m wanting advice or to know if I am the ass hole in this situation