Anybody else feel like their husband isn’t attracted to them anymore….
I (29F) lately feel like my husband (30M) isn’t attractive to me anymore. We have been together for 11 years. We are currently trying for our second kid and not having much luck because he can’t “perform” when it really matters. He says that I’m putting too much pressure on him and he gets performance anxiety. I was telling him the week I was expecting to ovulate and then I’d tell him when my peak day was. I was trying to be helpful and give him a heads up but apparently this was making it harder for him. He says I shouldn’t say anything but the problem is anytime I try to initiate intimacy, he always shoots me down…
He has a physically demanding job and he works out a lot, to a fault I’d say because it makes his body physical exhausted. So I understand that he’s tired..
But am I wrong for thinking that it’s not far to me that he puts so much into his workouts that he’s too tired to ever be with me…? At this point I don’t think I’ll ever get my second kid.
He also says that we’ve been together so long that he doesn’t just get turned on anymore.. and that makes me really sad.. like I’m not good enough anymore. He’s also never been much for physical signs of affection so I don’t get other forms either. I feel like where just roommates raising a kid together.. I don’t know what to do but it’s making me feel pretty crappy about myself.