Take it from me, who was the "good obedient" kid.
What do I get in return for studying hard and listening to my parents? More complaints and more nitpicking. Now I am marked as the retirement plan. Anyone that I date gets torn apart by my AM because she has 1 or 2 flaws. My AM expects perfection from others while being extremely flawed herself. Any property that I want to purchase requires approval. Every job that I wish to join or resign from, requires approval. It's fucking bullshit. But hey, I am an adult when it comes to providing monthly allowances and dealing with problems.
The "bad rebellious" kids saw through the bullshit years ago. While it was hard, they fought and rebelled, that the APs gave up and let them do whatever they want. No approvals required. No interferences. Just straight up leaving them alone. Ironically, the APs will treasure the "bad rebellious" child more because they take the "good obedient" kid for granted.
As the Chinese saying goes, "The child who cries more gets more milk to drink".
So to all young Asian children here, heed this post and do whatever you think it is suitable for you. Do the pro Asian kid move and do it first, then tell your parents later. If you tell your parents first before doing it, 200% they will manipulate and sabotage whatever you are doing, because they want you dependent on them.