My ex and I split up three years ago because we had very different priorities. This, combined with problems on both of our ends, meant that we just couldn’t have a relationship anymore.
We were high school sweethearts, lived together, and had a six-year relationship. We were both too fixated on our own priorities and too stubborn to work on our problems.
We both had brief relationships in between, which left both of us worse than before. I went to therapy and worked on my problems. This January, I wanted to clear up some things about how we treated each other during the last six months before we split. Lo and behold, she had gone to therapy too.
Our priorities align better now, and the biggest problems are gone.
Well, it turns out I still love her more than ever. But after having a really toxic relationship after us, she told me she can’t love anymore. She also said she doesn’t want to get to know someone new or have a relationship anymore right now because she is finally at peace with herself.
I respect her deeply and respect her wishes, but it breaks me because I know I should distance myself for my own sake. But she is my everything.
Now I am sitting on my vacation in Japan and it is so hard to accept for me. At least I got my green tea.