My husband is bi and wants to have threesomes...I WANT to want to, but right now, I don't.
As it says in title, my husband is bisexual, and I am also. We're both in our 30s, married 2 years, together for 5. When we got married, we agreed to monogamy. So all of this has been a shock to us both, him realising he's been repressing his bisexuality, and me realising our marriage is changing.
My husband now is struggling with his bicycle which sucks for both of us in different ways. He feels bad for not wanting me sexually right now and in turn I don't feel as loved as I don't get as much affection. So we go through these pretty tough patches sometimes. We had a heartfelt discussion last night about what he truly wants in a perfect world...
I've always been a monogamous person, and it's how I was bought up. So its kinda just who I am. But now my husband has expressed he would like for us to explore MMF together.
I want to want that, I want to do it, I know it would make him happy, and maybe.. I could possibly really enjoy it I dunno. 🤷🏻♀️
I think he'd want it to be a semi-regular thing.
But he has expressed that it would be strictly just sex and he wouldn't want a relationship with that man.
I have suggested we each have therapy to work on ourselves, then work on building our marriage even stronger and then maybe we can consider it down the line. I've said I don't want to rush anything, that I want to do my own research in my own time. He says he understands.
Does anyone have any advice?
Any good sources I can look for that can reassure me that it wouldn't ruin our marriage?
Or any personal stories you can tell me that may help me in some way?
Anything either way is appreciated 🙏🏻