My spouse (39M) and I (37F) have gotten in a couple of spiff’s over the course of 2 months about his coworker. During these arguments, I feel disregarded and like he doesn’t understand where I am coming from. Today, he asked me if I felt like I was being unreasonable or jealous. I feel like I’m being reasonable, but AIO?
We went to a hockey game with 2 of his female coworkers and during the event there were multiple conversations about a TV show that they watched and connected over. I felt perplexed as to why my husband didn’t mention the show when he was watching it or offered to watch it together with me. After the game, I told him I felt excluded during all the convos.
Same day as the hockey game, my husband mentions to the girls that we are going to watch Stars On Ice in a month and invites them along. He asks me what section we’re sitting in so that they can buy tickets close by. I did not like this but did not mention it in moment in front of the group. I had booked tickets since I like watching figure skating and wanted it to be a date night. I thought he would’ve viewed it as date night too. Today, as we’re arguing about #4, he throws out that he never wanted to go to the show.
A couple weeks after, my husband goes with me to an appointment. During the appointment the coworker texted him saying they’re in the area and wanted to meet up. My husband asks me if I wanted boba and I said yes. After my appointment, the coworker was not ready yet since they still needed to grab lunch then could meet up for boba. I told him if that’s the case, I didn’t want to go meet up anymore since we had dinner date night plans and I wanted enough time to shower and get ready. We need up arguing since he felt like it would be hard to decline his coworker since we already said yes. We ended up going to meet up, staying for an hour to talk, then going home to rush and get ready for dinner.
Earlier this week, I asked my husband to go to a dog pack walk event over the weekend. The event is a group event where owners of the dog breed brings their dogs so that they can socialize. My friends also have the same dog breed and are going on the walk (they also do each month). Today, my husband told me that he invited his coworker to the dog walk event and she was going by herself with no dog. I told him I didn’t appreciate it since that would mean he would be responsible for entertaining her and he wouldn’t talk to me or pay attention to our dog as much. He said that it’s a social event and that at work they have a walking club, she lives close by, and she’s social.
He tells me IO and asked if I was jealous, but I feel like he’s disregarding my explanations. AIO?