Need some feedback on this from other intjs who have been in long term partnerships (marriage, etc.) but then meets someone who is your ideal type. This is currently happening to me.
How do you handle the infatuation/limerence/love? What was the resolution you chose for your existing relationship?
Context: my marriage is functional. Won't go into details about happiness level. Suffice to say, my partner doesn't care to match my need for intellectual compatibility.
Edit: I'm getting comments from people assuming I'm cheating etc. FYI, I'm not and I won't go into her position on that subject. The question I'm trying to find answers to is, the limerence is overwhelming, and so is the situation I've found myself in. As an intj, i standby my word regardless of how my now-wife and I end up getting married. I just want to know how others in relatively similar positions, deal with an unexpected bout of limerence this far out in their long term relationships.