I (M17) have noticed over the years that my dad (M51) doesn't congratulate or appear happy for my achievements as much as barrade me for performing poorly.
For example, this other day I told him that I earned only 8 marks on a 25 mark test, and he kept making comments about it all day. "It's your phone. Your phone is turning your mind into soup." "How many hours a day do you even study?" "I don't know where you think you're taking your life, young man." When I mentioned that that was the highest in the class and it was the teacher who made an unfair test, he brushed it off as excuses. This wasn't the first nor the last occasion of the same nature. I understand he says things like that for my own good. He wants me to reach somewhere in life. But I was getting tired of it, especially because of the second part of my complaint.
It would be fine if he had a fairly balanced reaction on both ends of the spectrum. But that unfortunately is not the case. The other day I informed him excitedly that I earned the full marks on a 65 mark test, and all he said was "good". That's it. "Good." Nothing else. Never brought up again. I kept telling him about how the test went, how others did (you know how parents are, always comparing), and he just nodded along, as if he was only half listening.
Yesterday, my dad told me to turn on the computer and open a website. I didn't hear the last part, so I just opened the computer. He got mad at me for not finishing the job given to me. He turned off the PC directly from the switch board without shutting down (has been disastrous for our machine historically btw) and started hitting water bottles against the table aggressively. He went into his room, and began shouting from the next door, as he always does.
At that moment I snapped and said, "Maybe you should congratulate and compliment me on my achievements as much as you scold me for my follies." Yes those exact words (translated into English of course).
Since then he's not been talking to me (it's been a day).
So AITAH?