self-harm, attention seeking, and emotional abuse
I told a relative I cut myself and I shouldn't have because it was selfish and possibly "attention seeking" in his words, and I don't even fully know why I told him. This is may be the second or third time I have ever disclosed my sh to him and the first was bc I was cornered into explaining it, not bc I chose to. I have otherwise kept all my sh a secret unless I disclose it in therapy.
His replies were awful. He said s-h was the "the actions of self-pitying moron", "attention seeking", that "people's lives don't revolve around you", that I told him to manipulate and gain sympathy (I'm not sure I didn't, but I know the sh itself was NOT about that, it was about being numb and full of self-hatred); he also said "people will hate you, they will shun you" if you tell them you sh. He said judgmentally, "What's the matter with you, what's wrong with you" and something to the effect of 'why is your life always filled with drama?'
I admit I may have wanted sympathy after the fact of hurting myself, and it was selfish of me to tell him something I knew would hurt him. I have learned my lesson and will never sh again or tell anyone about it ever again if I do except on here or in therapy.
I guess this is me venting/looking for a little sympathy bc what he said really, really hurt me. Please don't be mean in the comments as I know I was wrong to share that distressing info with him and he has made me feel how wrong I was. I still think, even if he was right, he shouldn't have used the language he used, especially when I told him why I hurt myself.
Was what he said justified, did he say truthful things in an unhelpful manner, or was he wrong?