I’d like some outside perspective on a situation with a friend.
We sometimes hang out using my car. Some time ago, he left joint remnants in the back of my car. I told him I wasn’t comfortable with that, and we didn’t see each other for a while after that.
Recently, we met again. I assumed things would be different, but during the outing:
- He smoked again despite my previous concern
- He invited someone I didn’t know without asking
- He had alcohol with him and ended up drunk
- going back to his place, kept asking to stop the car to vomit
At that point, i dropped him at his place and I decided to leave and went home. Afterward, I chose to cut contact.
I’m trying to understand if this was a reasonable way to handle things, or if I should have approached it differently in the moment.
It’s not the first time I’ve had problems with people disrespecting housekeeping rules—how do you enforce respect in your place ?